I became happier when I decided that everything has to fall into these three buckets:
- Things that make me happy
- Things I can change
- Things I don’t care about
(Not mutually exclusive, obviously.)
If something doesn’t make me happy, I ask myself if I can change it. If I can, I do. If I can’t, I decide not to care about it. I accept it as metaphysically given and reorient my values to focus on the first two buckets.
This can be subtle. Sometimes it’s just an issue of scope. Don’t like the way hiring is done at your company? Frustrated with national politics? Choose your battles. Change the aspects that affect you most directly and personally, in small, doable ways. Accept the fact that you can’t change them completely overnight, and don’t let that frustrate you.
The advantage of this mentality is that it removes from your life completely the category of: broken things that you care
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